The Dos and Don’ts of Writing the Perfect Dating Profile
Writing what is essentially a personal sales pitch – your online dating profile – can feel like a somewhat tricky task, but it doesn’t have to be.
It is however, important to get it right. There are hundreds of people in just the same position as you, so making sure you’re the one that logs in to a full inbox is all down to what you include (and don’t include) in your profile.
Don’t: Be shy
Us Brits pretty much rule the school when it comes to self-deprecating humour, and although it can seem weird listing the things you think others will find attractive in you, be confident and go for it. If you’re unsure, ask a friend or colleague that you trust to tell you what they think your best traits are. Don’t be afraid to show off a bit, just be careful not to cross the line into the arrogant arena.
Do: Be honest about what you want
It’s vital to be clear about what you’re looking for in a potential partner, whether that be the kind of relationship you’re after (casual or serious) or the personality traits you find attractive in others. It won’t be seen as being picky or judgemental – everyone has a “type” to some degree.
Don’t: Tell fibs
There’s no use filling your profile with claims of how much you love to cook when in reality your solitary signature dish is spag bol from a jar. Highlight the things you really like, rather than what you think sounds impressive. Also, be honest when it comes to filling out your statistics. Of course dating isn’t all about looks, but no potential relationship will get off to a good start if you turn up to a date standing 8 inches shorter than you claimed.
Don’t: Be too brief
A profile consisting of one sentence along the lines of “Looking to meet someone nice, message me if you want to know more” is just lazy. If everyone wrote a profile like that, imagine how boring it would be.
Do: Avoid an essay
While one-liners are ineffective, the same can also be said for excruciatingly long essays. You want to retain the interest of whoever is checking you out, so while it’s important to include interesting information about yourself, there’s no need to write an autobiography.
Do: Get your pictures right
Soulmates gives you the option to upload nine pictures, so make the most of this if you can. Sunglasses in every photo are a no-no, as are too many arty pictures that don’t actually show what you look like. It’s a good idea to have a couple that are clear, head-on portraits, along with a few that will portray your personality and the things you enjoy. A good photo can be a great conversation starter.
Don’t: Be afraid to be different
Everyone enjoys travelling and eating out, so include things in your profile that’ll make you memorable and help you stand out from the crowd. Weird random facts about yourself or silly jokes might seem embarrassing, but actually it’s little things like these that will set you apart from the rest.